How to Help with Your Partner's Urologic Condition

Do your husband’s bathroom visits in the middle of the night wake you up? Is he having physical troubles that are affecting your sex life?

Your spouse’s urologic condition can be irritating for him, but it can affect you too.

That’s why it’s important to know the common urologic conditions, symptoms, and treatments for men. Because when a urologic disorder starts, you might notice it before he does, and that could prevent problems that might affect you both.

Prostate Cancer

Prostate cancer is the most common type of cancer among men. If caught early enough, it is treatable. Usually there are no symptoms. Treatment for prostate cancer can be difficult, like any cancer treatment, and spousal support is extremely helpful in the process.

BPH (Benign Prostatic Hyperplasia)

Otherwise known as an enlarged prostate, BPH causes frequent urination or difficulty or pain while urinating, and is usually found in men over 50. BPH can make any usual activity unpleasant for both parties in the relationship, such as sleepless nights or road trips. Treatment for BPH is easy and effective, so it’s important to recognize it early to treat the symptoms right away.


Prostatitis is an inflammation of the prostate and is more prevalent among men under 50. Symptoms are similar to those of BPH and prostate cancer, and can also include fever, low sperm count, fatigue, or blood in the semen. Treatment for prostatitis includes antibiotics, medication, or symptom relievers like heating pads or a hot bath.

Erectile Dysfunction (ED)

ED is a condition in which a man lacks the ability to get or maintain an erection during sexual activity. ED is a very common problem among men; 30 million men suffer from chronic ED each year. Since ED can be treated and usually arises from a separate health condition, it’s important to recognize the problem and visit your doctor as soon as possible.

Once you learn the information regarding the possible urologic condition of your spouse, it’s time to be proactive instead of reactive. Here are some steps you can take to help your partner avoid more serious problems in the future:


Self-exams should be done regularly, but there are still places that are hard to reach. Help your spouse with his exams, looking for swelling, lumps, or any new moles that appear out of the ordinary.


Communication can be the most vital factor for recovery. Encourage your spouse to communicate with you about any symptoms or worries; there doesn’t have to be any embarrassment or judgment in the conversation.


Make sure you and your spouse are researching possible urologic conditions and symptoms for a better understanding of what’s happening. The more knowledge you have about a disorder, the less stress there will be in the process.


There are many lifestyle changes you can encourage your spouse to make to prevent urologic conditions, including exercise and a healthy diet. If your spouse is having trouble maintaining these habits, try joining him for extra motivation.

Urologic conditions can be tough to deal with in any relationship, but understanding what the disorder is, why it’s occurring, and how it’s treated can make a huge difference. Even though it’s your partner’s decision, a team approach can lead to a more successful recovery!

To schedule an appointment with our urologist, call RAMC at 608-524-6487 or visit our urology page.

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